Caring for Your Parents

The first in a series looking at taking care of Alaska's aging population

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By Lauren Maxwell
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ANCHORAGE - Here at KTVA CBS 11 News, we’re starting a new series focusing on the challenges and opportunities surrounding one of the oldest populations in Alaska.

It’s a population growing faster here than anywhere else in the country.

CBS 11’s Lauren Maxwell introduces or re-introduces us to Alaska’s senior population and why caring for your parent is more of a reality than you think.

It’s a role reversal reality that many of us are falling into unexpectedly.

With this installment, we begin a weekly series called Caring for Your Parents... a look at the rapid growth of how adult children are spending more and more time caring for the ones who raised them. (Follow and join the conversation on Twitter by using the hashtag #KTVAC4P.)

It’s called the silver tsunami. The baby boomer generation is about to flood our senior population with millions of people.

“By about 2020, we will have about 20 percent of our population over the age of 60,” said Linda Meyer, senior services coordinator for the Municipality of Anchorage’s Department of Health and Human Services. “We have a very large boomer population. When we look at that as a community, we are going to be faced with some opportunities and challenges.

Every day 8,000 people in the U.S. are celebrating their 65th birthday. The Alaska Commission on Aging released a report last year capturing what that means for us.

It found our senior population grew over 70 percent from 2000 to 2010.

“We are seeing a lot of people staying here rather than moving, because we are doing fairly well in terms of services and supports – better than some other states,” said Lisa Wawrzonek, education director of Alzheimer’s Resource of Alaska.

The commission’s report found at least $1.7 billion is pumped into Alaska’s economy every year from seniors retiring and staying put.

A good portion of that money is spent on health care.

Dementia is one of the biggest health issues facing Alaska’s seniors. One of the most well known forms of dementia is Alzheimer’s.

“…And with our growing senior population, we are also going to have a growing population diagnosed with some form of dementia. Whether it’s Alzheimer’s, Lewy [Lewy Body dementia] or stroke related, 1 in 8, 65 or older, is going to be impacted. And it doesn’t just impact that person but also those caring for that person,” Wawrzonek, of Alzheimer’s Resource of Alaska, said.

And the face of the caregiver is increasingly becoming their adult children. Yes, the answer to who will take care of mom and dad… is you.

“The family caregiver is the primary care giver. Seven out of 10 people live with their family or in their home. The role reversal of this is my parent and now being in that parent role can create a lot of emotional stress,” said Wawrzonek.

It’s stress over things like independence. How can your parents maintain their independence when they can no longer do things independently?

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Anonymous said on Thursday, Oct 4 at 4:57 PM

and ask that college kid to hire a computer tech kid to install cameras and you can see how ma and or pa are doing while you are at work

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caring for ma and pa said on Wednesday, Oct 3 at 11:47 PM

when that occurs the elders go into the stage of infancy at the end stage and that is the best time to hold them and the maternal feelings will mix... the traditions of most peoples is to be family all you life...not take off at 18 and send a postcard...we are coming full circle back around to what is normal for the elders and how to care for them...children are maternal and want to be burdened or a watchdog to who is caring for their folks...good...but don't fall into the trap of putting them in a home...hire out...college students nursing majors in peticular are good to hire...background checks are 20 bucks and FBI fingerprint checks are 25 bucks...and when that is taken care of...you can go to work...come home to dinner made...house clean and ma or pa happy! Cheaper, better, and most providers can come in to see ma or pa and caretaker and get a report...

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Wes Craske said on Tuesday, Oct 2 at 5:37 PM

Less than a year after my dad retired, he came down with prostate cancer. After a period of 5 years, the cancer spread to his lymphatic system. I would spend a few months a year with him and my mom in Oregon where they re-located. Rather than looking at the situation as being a horrible imposition, I thought of the process as valuable time and made the best of it. After my dad's death in 1999, I filled the same role with my mom. She would call out of the blue and ask me to fly down to Oregon and drive her to Mariner's games at Safeco Field--a sport we each loved. I will always treasure this time I had with my parents. Because of their friends and me, they were able to stay in their lovely coastal home. I took several lessons from the experiences: We are now planning our final home. It will have large door frames, walk-in showers, single story construction, and be made of materials that will outlast my wife and me. At the same time, while we don't wish to burden our children.

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Ben Olsen said on Tuesday, Oct 2 at 11:50 AM

I have both of my parents living with me,the great thing is they make great watchdogs for the house.At 85 and 81 it is getting hard for them to get aroung even thou they do get out quite a bit,but they are getting old.Neither one can really walk very far with out becoming very tired and still want to do thins that they wish they could do.My Dad loves to ride my lawn tractor and cut the lawn but that I see is getting to him.

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KTVA said on Tuesday, Oct 2 at 11:38 AM

Thanks Debi for sharing your story! We would love to talk to you. Pls email the producer of this series MJ Thim @ mjthim@ktva.com

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Debi James said on Tuesday, Oct 2 at 10:40 AM

My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers at age 80 and came to live with me when he was 83. His second wife refused to care for him. It was not in my lifeplans, and it was a very hard transition for both of us at first. He did not understand why he could not live in his home with his wife, he would pack his suitcase every night to go home. It was heartbreaking. However, he soon forgot he was married, or had a home in CA and began to enjoy his life with me in Alaska. My husband worked nights and cared for dad during the day, I worked in the day and cared for my dad at night. It was hard, but as soon as I thought about how my dad would do anything he could for me in my child, teen and young adult years - it was easy for me to enjoy the chance I had to give back to him the same love and devotion. The roles were reversed but I got to spend his final years telling him how much I loved him, I was able to give him the care he needed at home where he died among his loved ones. No regrets!

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